Pharmacy Chick has started at least a dozen posts in recent days and most of them have fallen by the wayside for lack of interest or a decent conclusion. I want to write well, on subjects that matter enough to me to share. I’ve received email from readers wondering if I have quit or moved on, and no, Ive done neither but I have seemed to have covered most of the subjects that interest me and to rehash them constantly is kind of a waste of time.
I do have a presence on Facebook, not as Pharmacy Chick, but as the real me. Recently I made a post that garnished a lot of comments and interest and because it had a relationship to work, I decided that indeed, I have a subject worth writing about.
It started Saturday afternoon. My tech went to lunch ( a mandatory function within our company…you cannot NOT take a lunch when you are a tech). All was well until a certain time when it seemed all of Chickville descended on the pharmacy. 2 phones were ringing and at both windows (drop off and pick up) I had at least 2 people in line. Thats about 6+ individuals that wanted my attention. I was working thru one end of the windows when this Neanderthal of a man, with a teenage boy accompanying him, came up and spoke over everyone else ” Isn’t there anyone else around here? I want some help”. I said ” no, I am the only staff member here at the moment, Ill take care of you as soon as I can”. It would seem that it would be pretty obvious that I wasn’t sitting around reading magazines and ignoring the lines. but that wasn’t acceptable, he had to go on. “There are other people down here too and we are waiting”. His tone of voice was abusive and inflammatory. No shit sherlock, I’m not blind but I am also not able to be in two places at one time. ” Ill be there as soon as I can, I have to finish here”. Bearing witness to all of this was our store manager who asked if he could help me so I had him help a nice lady find something on an aisle. Finishing up I went down to the drop off and took care of a clearly embarrassed-f0r-me lady who dropped off her rx and said ” ill be back later and I promise I won’t yell at you”. Neanderthal wasn’t to be found anymore.
Later my manager said ” you can call me anytime you need some extra help”. He is a peach of a guy, someone with a heart of gold and I’d take a bullet for. I said ” thanks Rick, I got this, I just don’t need or appreciate being yelled at by jerks”. And my boss said “Well we never know their circumstances”….
I thought about that for a while and I burned…not for pity but for resentment because that statement right there has taken our country from one of politeness and appropriate behavior to one of rudeness, violence, get-what-you-want-at-all-costs, take no prisoners. I refused to accept that and I respectfully disagree with my boss.
Later that night I made a generic post about the incident explaining that circumstances are no excuse for rudeness and inappropriate behavior in social settings. We need to exhibit self control, and mind our manners regardless of the crap we have in our lives. if we can’t, we are showing others that we are petulant toddlers instead of civilized humans.
I got a lot of comments, mostly positive and in agreement. One commenter was a mother of a special needs person who for the most part agreed, but said ” I am occasionally rude and I am not sorry for that because I have a special needs child”.
Sorry, my friend, that is utter CRAP. Let me expound on this
EVERYBODY has circumstances. Nobody is exempt. You may have a special needs child. The lady next you may have an abusive husband. The man at the counter may have just lost his job. The lady standing next to you in line may have lost her son to a heroin addiction, and the guy next to you in traffic just lost his wife to cancer , and the person waiting on you at the restaurant may have had a miscarriage 2 days ago… WHOSE circumstances trump anyone else’s?
NOBODY’S.. Everybody has crap in their lives we have to deal with. That is just a fact of life. If you are reading this and you can say ” I have no crap” consider yourself lucky, because someday you will. we all do. Life is tough.
That does not justify ruining someone else’s day because your day sucks. Why am I telling you this? Why does this matter? Because I have seen an increase in in appropriate behavior exploding over the last several years. If you work in a service industry or with the public you’ll agree… We see it on you tube, filmed by cell phone cameras. We see it captured on video surveillance in stores. Its disgusting frankly, so see people descend into behavior that is frankly, embarrassing to watch and probably worse to witness.
Circumstances are not an excuse for being rude to people you come in contact with.
Circumstances are not a justification for taking out your frustrations on others
Circumstances are not a reason for abusing other people, your own children or animals
Circumstances are just that…Circumstances. WE all have them. We all have our baggage that life has given us to carry. So the next time you want to lash out, pack it away. Be nice. Be polite, Be proper. Its not your right to be nasty, rude or inappropriate.
And if you are? Why don’t you man up and apologize.
And the the rest of the story? My tech came back and the first thing she said was ” Man, I sure feel sorry for Reba in the Deli, this guy was yelling at her about something wrong with his sandwich” I asked Did he have a teenage boy with him? ” why yes he did..”
What you think that teen was learning…..