It seems to be rather commonplace nowadays to surreptitiously take pictures of people in various states of dress and shape and post them on social media/websites for the sole purpose of making another person laugh at the photo victim. Personally I find this kind of activity abhorrent and I wish people wouldnt do it. Its rather intrusive to one’s personal privacy to have one human taking a picture of another without that person’s knowledge and consent and posting it for the world to see. Whether or not that person is readily identifiable is not relevant.
70% of Americans are “overweight” and 40% are obese by definition. Overweight is defined as having a BMI of 25-30 and Obesity is a BMI of over 30. Making FUN of somebody who is fat is neither appropriate or likely to cause a change in behavior. These people have mirrors and probably know that they are overweight. What they decide to do about it neither hinges on taking secret pictures or laughing at them. This is fat shaming.
There are people who are perfectly happy being “fat”. They embrace their bodies and love them regardless. Obesity is not a healthy way to occupy a body regardless of how that person feels about their weight because your brain may be happy about your weight but I assure you, the heart, pancreas, and bones are not. This is not fat shaming, its science.
Doing appropriate counseling in the right setting to enable and empower a person who wants to make a change, do it, is also not fat shaming.
My mother was obese. She gained an unbelievable amount of weight after the birth of her two children. Tho she would never divulge her actual weight I knew it to be pretty close to the 250-300 range. She didnt like it, didnt “embrace” her fatness and often would “diet” and yo yo back and forth. She didnt live a healthy lifestyle, and her yo yo-ing would just produce temporary weight loss followed by another bout of gain. She had “fat clothes” and “skinny clothes”, and most of the time the “skinny clothes” were in the closet downstairs, unworn. In the end the only permanent weight loss program she had was cancer…and death. She didnt like to exercise, she didnt like portion control, she didnt like behavior modification…She , like most of us wanted a quick fix.
Our culture is partly to blame. We eat too much. Nearly every restaurant gives portions that way outstrip our need for calories to the point that when I eat out, Mr Chick and I often share one item. Everything is supersized, oversized, gigantisized! The fact that we eat a significant portion of our meals OUT also contributes to obesity in america. When I eat at home I know I eat less. I don’t have 5 course meals at home and by that I mean, an appetizer, salad, bread, main course and then dessert. At home we eat 1 plate of food generally and a beverage, and I don’t use a lot of sauces, gravies, cheeses and rarely do I have an alcoholic beverage.
its been rather shocking to see the calories in a meal at a restaurant since the calories have been printed on most menus. Even a salad, traditionally a diet type food has been upsized into a calorie hound. Its not uncommon to see a nearly 2000 calorie meal on a plate by the time its all said and done.
The flip side to this is the shaming people also do to the exceptionally fit. Yes people shame those who love the gym as if there is something wrong with spending 15 hours a week at the gym. Not for me mind you, I like getting a little exercise but I usually prefer a walk with a golf bag over my back. If you are a person with 12 pack abs, way to go…not for me! Id never have the patience or determination to get that fit and if I did, I’d probably die in the process. Some people hate the exceptionally fit as if their fitness is an affront to their general lack thereof. This is untrue just as my normal-ness shouldn’t be an affront to somebody is overweight.
I wrote this post today when I saw yet another meme where somebody fat was photoshopped with a “muffin” under their derriere, eating some fast food.. Im sure its travelled the internet over and over.
I didnt find it particularly funny but Im sure many will. I would only close with this: If you are obese and want to change, find a way to empower yourself to make that change, steadily and slowly. If you don’t care to change, understand there may be a price to pay someday in the form of diabetes, or heart disease.
PC doesn’t care either way. Live and let live but don’t blame me for not knowing.